Every living being on this world will feel the universal feeling of love. It is not just a characteristic of human being only, plants and animals also acquainted with the unique emotions. Love is characterized by a sense of attachment and affection towards somebody or something. The answer for those who are still wondering why is love so important in our lives; love satisfies the emotional needs of human beings. The feeling of love is responsible for the survival and preservation of the civilization. When a baby is born, parents stop thinking about about their hunger, sleep, as they are so much in love with their child. The sweet delight of love enables the man to achieve tasks that would not have been possible without its powers. This mysterious emotion exceeds all limitations and has great potential of shifting lives of the people. “The Merry Maid” by Jayakaran Mukundan and “A Great Injustice” by Heah Chwee Sian will be my focus of discussion for this topic.
First of all, if a man really loves his partner, he will ready to take responsibility not only towards his partner, but also what happens around them. Just because they are not married doesn't mean that they are not invested in this relationship. Human love at best are like fireworks of good intention displayed over dark skies, but unfortunately they are not able to retain their light. All that remains from the falling ashes are some good memories and albums. Relationships need the oil of constant love to properly operate. In the story A great Injustice we can see that Steven had left Ah Nya because he don’t want to be responsible towards the baby. If Steven really loves Ah Nya, he won’t left Ah Nya and ready to be in charge to take care of the baby.
Secondly, parent’s love towards their children is very noble. When a child commits a crime and goes to jail, the parents would not say, "Thank God he went there," but shed tears, forgive him and love him. That is the love of the parents. In the story A Great Injustice, we can see that Ah Nya’s mother defend her after she speaks of the truth, ”Shut up! ordered Ah Soh, hugging her daughter. Everyone makes mistakes. What’s done is done. You men always say that you should have sexual experience before marriage but who are your mates? They are also someone else’s daughters. It is just unfortunate that Ah Nya has become the victim of a man’s lust.”. Not only that, Ah Nya’s mother is willing to accept and take care of her child. This can be seen by the lines,”I’ll look after you and the baby, said her mother”. Love between a man and a woman changes, but when we think why love centering on children, who are the result of the love between a man and a woman, does not change, it happens because this relationship is composed of a certain flow of vertical origin. We are sure of that.
My other point is when parents love their children, they do not love them in a certain, permanent form, asserting themselves, and saying, "parents must be like this," but they do not love children from the authority situation. They love their children even to a privileged position, from a place that forgets the authority of parents. We can say they truly are parents with such a love, standing before their children. If parents own love, they do not have it for themselves, but for the children. That love of parents does not exist only for the parents, but for the object of parents. It is the same with children. In The Merry Maid, Lakshmi love towards her daughter, Sakinah is presented greatly. At the end of this story, Lakshmi decides not to fighther right as the biological mother of Sakinah as she knows Sakinah can live in a better condition at Datin’s place. “Yes, often. She is now with her Godmother. I had planned to take her away but I now consider that that is the most selfish thing a mother could do. I have been taught that wonderful lesson.” We can see that from the extract the word love is not composed when centering on ourselves, but when we respect the object partner more than ourselves. So that is why when we say we were born for love, it has the same meaning with saying we were born for an object partner.
Besides that, we love our children because they are our children, we care for them and teach them and help them grow. Whether we birth them or not they are our children and the love we feel for them rests upon that condition. It is possible to love an adopted child as much as a biological one. The reality is that loving anyone without conditions is impossible. People assume that they unconditionally love their children, or their parents, or their lovers because of how much love they feel for them. The fact is though, the conditions that qualify that individual for your love in the first place should be paid tribute. They earned your love, they deserve your love, that's a wonderful thing. In The Merry Maid, The Datin treats Sakinah as her own daughter without being prejudice although Sakinah is not her own daughter. Plus, Sakinah also not a Malay. Sakinah is an Indian girl being adopted and raised up in a Malay family. “Yes,”said the Datin, “I don’t know how to handle this. Please help us. Sakinah is my daughter, no matter what,” she managed to say as she again broke into deep sobs. So, it is possible to love someone that is not in your biological family so much it feels like they are your family. Family is a word, it does not mean blood so much as it means bond.
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